Tag: self care
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Keeping your head above water
How I wish I could tell myself, the self from a month or two ago, that today would be a better day. How I wish I could remind myself that there are days like today filled with infinitely more joy than suffering, if only we allow it space to enter. Somewhere in between pain and…
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Where’d all the time go
At one point, I was an eight year old girl daydreaming about owning my own credit card (big mistake), having my driver’s license, and living near an art museum. Oddly enough, all of these dreams have come to fruition, but the heaviness I carried in my childhood heart found its way to stay throughout the…
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Conditional love in the chaos of unfamiliar times
“What good is love if it’s toxic?” I ask my therapist. “Perhaps it’s not love that’s toxic, but the expression of it that is.” I used to think that unconditional love was the greatest love. To love someone regardless of any action they do even if it’s against you and to love them fully and…
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Fear the change or embrace the opportunity
Will we fear for change or embrace the ambiguity of opportunity? I have been stuck in a self-made dilemma, to stay home or move out… Much of my anxiety around the latter is tied to my perfectionism of wanting everything to feel right and look right to be the “right” choice, but my good friend…
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To This We Owe Ourselves
Dear Friend, We cannot claim the inheritance of stars and skies. The world was not created to charm us into certainty. This world is not our birthright. Nature’s grace moves swiftly and beautifully past us. We fold and unfold by the things that carry us. We build houses on hills, the fallacy of kings with…
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There’s more to suicide prevention than just talking about it
How profound is it to be so connected to the pain of someone that you feel compelled to change it? I recently said this to someone I look up to after I noticed how lost and disempowered he seemed to feel regarding the current political climate and violent loss of black lives at the hands…
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At the forefront of change
For most of my life, I’ve known depression for almost as long as I’ve known myself. There was a “me” before mental illness and there is still a me even with mental illness, but my mental illness is not the all-encompassing way I know myself. Just as there is a you in spite of all…
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Process oriented vs outcome oriented
“So often we judge ourselves by our outcomes,” are the last words my therapist offered me as a food for thought before we ended our conversation today. My therapist and I were talking about how just because a decision you made turned sour or caused trouble, its outcome is not a reflection on your character. …
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Productivity During COVID-19
April 10, 2020 I’ve been seeing this tweet float around a lot these past few weeks: Subsequently, this Tumblr thread gained traction in response to the original Twitter poster: I’ve been reflecting on this idea of productivity during isolation a lot especially because all the chaos prior to COVID-19 hasn’t halted to make space for…
A Cozy Mind 